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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 3:59 pm
(January 17, 2018 at 3:53 pm)Mermaid Wrote: (January 17, 2018 at 3:37 pm)alpha male Wrote: Yeah, that's why you use clear verbal communication instead of wandering around mumbling for a half hour.
Is this something everyone is capable of doing? Have you ever thought for a minute about why someone would feel unable to eject from a social situation like this?
Or why she should need to . And why he should not clue in that something is off .
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:01 pm
(January 17, 2018 at 3:57 pm)Tizheruk Wrote: Nope getting naked does not mean sex it could mean a form of intimacy but not necessarily sex .
"Sex" has many meanings. They performed oral sex on each other according to her description.
My point, and I think what alpha male's underlying point was, is that if you go home from a date and get naked in front of your date, you're sending a pretty strong signal that some form of sexual activity is about to happen.
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:01 pm
If a woman sits naked next to me, her clothes are not being denied from her, and she hasn’t made a move to put them back on, I do get the impression that this means she’s wanting sex. I’m assuming she’d tell me to stop, if she wasn’t interested and all she wanted was for her deodorant to dry.
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:02 pm
(January 17, 2018 at 3:53 pm)Mermaid Wrote: (January 17, 2018 at 3:37 pm)alpha male Wrote: Yeah, that's why you use clear verbal communication instead of wandering around mumbling for a half hour.
Is this something everyone is capable of doing? Have you ever thought for a minute about why someone would feel unable to eject from a social situation like this?
But if she has communication issues, how did she end up with a celebrity? How did she release the traumatic and personal story to the entire planet soon after it happened?
We can't assume people's personality in an important issue like this. The evidence is she gave him a bj and did not directly reject, and when she did, he complied.
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:04 pm
(January 17, 2018 at 3:53 pm)Mermaid Wrote: Is this something everyone is capable of doing?
It's something everyone (excluding certain mental disabilities) is capable of learning to do.
Quote:Have you ever thought for a minute about why someone would feel unable to eject from a social situation like this?
Yes, I can think of various reasons. But what's the solution?
1. Such women avoid such situations and work on their assertiveness.
2. No man ever knows if what he's doing is acceptable until after the fact.
I think the first is more reasonable.
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:05 pm
(This post was last modified: January 17, 2018 at 4:08 pm by The Grand Nudger.)
"The evidence" and again it's just her story, suggests that she repeatedly and directly rejected his advances, that he even acknowledged these rejections....and that he did, very possibly..commit rape in the legal sense.
I don't know why this has to keep being said.
We can only be wondering whether or not the allegation is credibile..because if it happened as stated, he might not get convicted...but it would be an OJ escape. "If the girl took the bit, you must acquit!"
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:05 pm
(This post was last modified: January 17, 2018 at 4:06 pm by Tiberius.)
Or to put it another way:
If I went on a date, brought that date home, she got naked, and I asked her "Did you want to have sex?", she'd probably think I was a little slow on the uptake.
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:07 pm
(January 17, 2018 at 3:58 pm)Shell B Wrote: "some form of intimacy" "some sexual activity"
You're saying the same thing.
No i'm not . I'll give you a personal example . My girlfriends and i get naked when we watch TV sometimes or often in bed were not wearing clothes . Were not nudist nor are we have sex . So intimacy can mean more then just sex .
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:08 pm
(January 17, 2018 at 4:02 pm)SaStrike Wrote: (January 17, 2018 at 3:53 pm)Mermaid Wrote: Is this something everyone is capable of doing? Have you ever thought for a minute about why someone would feel unable to eject from a social situation like this?
But if she has communication issues, how did she end up with a celebrity? How did she release the traumatic and personal story to the entire planet soon after it happened?
We can't assume people's personality in an important issue like this. The evidence is she gave him a bj and did not directly reject, and when she did, he complied. This is not a communication disorder. It is a cultural thing. A LOT of women experience this. A lot.
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RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 4:08 pm
(January 17, 2018 at 4:05 pm)Tiberius Wrote: Or to put it another way:
If I went on a date, brought that date home, she got naked, and I asked her "Did you want to have sex?", she'd probably think I was a little slow on the uptake.
I wouldn't . And i think people should ask .
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