There are parts of myself I want to suppress (nothing illegal, well in the first world anyway). Mostly to encourage other parts of me to grow but also to blend in and be Normal (at least forgettable in the street). Can anybody help? (No religious bullshit please, that does not work).

Don't





Enjoy being what you are, sure some don't like it, but for every one of them, two others do. There is nothing more off-putting than meeting somebody who is trying to hide things.

(November 12, 2012 at 9:30 pm)jonb Wrote: Don't





Enjoy being what you are, sure some don't like it, but for every one of them, two others do. There is nothing more off-putting than meeting somebody who is trying to hide things.

I don't. I selectively disallow information to surface, if they don't want/need to know.

I have to take the train to nightschool 3 times a week.
Everytime I do, theres a woman in that train, and for an entire hour she keeps talking about: her family, their problems, her problems, the world, everything. Oh yeah, and shes really stupid.
In a very anoying, high pitched voice. And very loud.
Normal thing to do, pull yourself together and live with it.
What I did, stand up and scream:"SHUT THE FUCK UP NO ONE HERE IS INTERESTED IN HEARING WHAT YOU DO, ARE OR WHATEVER!"

When it feels good or brings positive results to do something "non-normal" just do it.

I guess you know how scary german sounds when it`s screamed

Why be normal? What is normal? Everyone presents what they want to the outside world, regardless of what their inner world is like. I take great comfort in the fact that I'm a messed up individual, just like everyone else, I try to embrace that instead of shunning it. For me, shunning those parts of myself that I'd rather keep in the dark is detrimental to my well-being. Not that I always fly my freak flag high, sometimes it's at half-mast, there is a time and place for everything.

Hmm, well I don't believe in free will so when people encounter each other they are going to respond in a pre-programmed way. So, while you might be successfully suppressing things about yourself, you ARE expressing certain things about yourself and, as JonB suggested, it can be very off-putting to meet someone who is hiding things.

Here is an article I found useful in explaining a view on freewill: http://chronicle.com/article/Jerry-A-Coyne/131165/

Quote:I construe free will the way I think most people do: At the moment when you have to decide among alternatives, you have free will if you could have chosen otherwise. To put it more technically, if you could rerun the tape of your life up to the moment you make a choice, with every aspect of the universe configured identically, free will means that your choice could have been different.

I spent years trying to "not be myself" I found that it wasn't helpful because whenever I made a change that made some happy others were not happy. It really is best to just try to be the most genuine person that you can be.

We are in the wonderful world of semantics here. One man's to much is another's introversion. I side on being an extrovert, but I am british, and we are known for being tight arses, so who can say how much is right?

I used to think I was an extrovert becaues I am very gregarious and loud. I've come to understand that, while I have figured out how to be social and thrive within a social setting, I am very much an introvert and go quite nuts if I am not allowed to spend time alone to recharge my batteries. Or maybe I'm an omnivert because I go quite nuts if I spend too much time by myself. Ok, maybe I'm just nuts?

Who would not want to spend time with this next extrovert?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rj1SFtxRTg

Wow, that was painful