(November 18, 2013 at 7:20 pm)Minimalist Wrote:

Quote:Side note: best sex I've ever had has been, consistently, with atheists.

We aren't hung up on the missionary position.

This deserves a comment. Your reply has merit, I find missionary, very for lack of a better word, ''vanilla.''

This might sound odd, but I don't really like 'romantic' sex. I do enjoy the bonding experience, but to me, sex has been best when I'm not in love with the person. Maybe heavy in like or infatuation, but once I fall in love, something changes about sex, (for me).

Not to say atheists are the only ones that can offer me carnal pleasure lol But, I have found that they are less hung up on having to have every sexual moment be about bonding or love or whatever, and just enjoy the experience.

Like when they show a couple 'making love' missionary style in the movies, I find it contrived.

Maybe I need therapy.

Aww. See, even casual sex between friends with benefits is pretty intimate for me. I guess because even when I fall in love with someone, they're also still my best friend, so for me sex makes bonds and is better that way.

BUT, I also get into BDSM, so there's a bit of a different headspace there.

I like all positions. Good lovers make them all exciting.

(November 18, 2013 at 1:20 pm)Ivy Wrote: What? Atheists don't scream out "Bacon"?

I know of at least one who does .. well, not that I know exactly. Put it this way, I'd lose a lot of faith if it turns out the librarian lady doesn't scream "BACON" when her toes curl.

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Once I was safely past my twenties I had no more use for maths during sex. Until then it was one of the best ways of coping with a hair trigger.

(November 18, 2013 at 2:30 pm)downbeatplumb Wrote:

(November 18, 2013 at 12:23 pm)freedomfromfallacy Wrote: [quote='Tonus' pid='545187' dateline='1384791067']

Wasn't he in The Running Man?

I read that as "Burning Man". I guess that's a good place to get one's groove on, no?

(November 18, 2013 at 9:43 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: Aww. See, even casual sex between friends with benefits is pretty intimate for me. I guess because even when I fall in love with someone, they're also still my best friend, so for me sex makes bonds and is better that way.

BUT, I also get into BDSM, so there's a bit of a different headspace there.

I like all positions. Good lovers make them all exciting.

I envy this, actually. To be in love AND enjoy fabulous sex with someone. Perhaps that will be my new year's resolution, and that is right around the bend.

(seriously, I should try to get past this)

Good luck!

(November 18, 2013 at 9:38 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: Like when they show a couple 'making love' missionary style in the movies, I find it contrived.

Maybe I need therapy.

Nah- just avoid missionary position for some years and then it will become new again. I used to feel the same way, but then I realized after some time had passed that there were merits. Maybe it's the "making love" and not the missionary position that bores you? I agree that nothing's more contrived than that whole "deep into each other's eyes while arching throats during missionary sex" movie thing. Yawn. Tender does not do it for me.

The missionary position allows for much eye contact and sloppy kissing - me likes!

Yeah, me too. It can be as tender or not tender as you want it to be.