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RE: My father
July 9, 2016 at 12:45 am
Sorry to hear that bud. I would give the obvious advice and say "just don't speak religion with him" but once alcohol is thrown in the mix he may be incapable of accepting any sort of boundary in conversation. My father doesn't drink, my family is mormon, but I notice that if I lead into a religious conversation that is happening around me or make any sort of sidecomment it always leads in ruin. I exit the room in the face of religious conversation as it is often fanatical. All they ever talk about is Church and Church issues. I run like the wind. haha.
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RE: My father
July 9, 2016 at 1:17 pm
Thanks everyone! I have read your posts and I will take all advice to heart. You have helped me feel less alone in this situation and I also feel more courageous to set my boundaries and not accept the abuse any longer.
Today my father tried his best to be nice again, now that he is sober again. It was obvious that he felt bad and that he did his best, and I appreciate that somewhat, but on the other hand it is typical that the real issue was not discussed, or mentioned, we should always play like nothing happened the night before.
I will tell me father that he is free to drink whatever he wants, but if he does that he should expect to do that without me, that I will leave and go to my own home then. I don't have any time for the bullshit and abuse that comes my way when he drinks.
I am not going to participate in his dysfunctional behavior. My main priority is protecting myself. I am working hard building my own life and this is going great. I no longer need any support from him, which is why I can set my boundaries very clear now without the fear of any repercussions. I am glad that this is the case now, because when I was younger and I was still financially dependent it seemed more risky to confront him (though I did that too at the moment).
