Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)

[abaris]

It could be fake. I always reply like it's serious, just in case it is. It really does no good to just scream troll.

No, it doesn't. But I refrain to add to threads like this until the particular person has proven to be legit by being an active member in different discussions. This one hasn't done that as of yet, and yes, I'm suspicious if someone seemingly sharing their most intimate secrets with a public board they just joined.

11 posts in 4 opened threads. I wait and see.

[Losty]

My identity is secured. Why would I hide anything? Nobody knows who I am.

Also, I do not believe in "leagues" or any of that bullshit.

The girl I liked dated a man like 15 years older than her, fat and bald who treated her like she didnt exist. The only reason she was with him was for money, even though she could easily get a handsome young man. Dont bullshit with me the "leagues" and all that.

In that case, I suggest you work on getting a raise or winning the lotto

[Edwardo Piet]

Yes, so what? I know many of you will call me a faggot or whatever. Idgf

I am a 21 year old male who has never kissed a girl or anything.  I often live off platonic loves. Liking a girl who I dont even know for years, and not being able to tolerate her presence because I start trembling, sweating, stuttering, cant think clearly, and feel like my legs have a 1000 KG ball attached to them (heavy). I often feel inferior to women who are pretty (in a specific way), or to the girl I like. Recently I even feel anger because is something I can barely control. Even when I read manga, or watch TV, etc. If there is a pretty female character, I almost immediatly feel annoyed by her. 

Take into account, though, that I am not shy in general. I speak well in public, and I can speak to anyone including women. EXCEPT, the girl I like. She is the only one who breaks me. 

Has anyone ever felt the same? It is like a love-hate sensation. You like her, and the same time you hate her.

I could have responded to this but fuck that first sentence. What the hell

Someone need to be consciousness raised into realizing that not all people are bigots

[Losty]

Someone needs to not be a biggot himself first methinks

[CapnAwesome]

My identity is secured. Why would I hide anything? Nobody knows who I am.

Also, I do not believe in "leagues" or any of that bullshit.

The girl I liked dated a man like 15 years older than her, fat and bald who treated her like she didnt exist. The only reason she was with him was for money, even though she could easily get a handsome young man. Dont bullshit with me the "leagues" and all that.

You might not believe in leagues, but pretty much everyone else does so it doesn't really matter if you believe in them or not. 9/10 couples are pretty much as attractive as one another. The other 1/10 either involve money (in which case you are never going to be with that person anyway, and probably don't want to be, unless you have a lot of money) or the truly rare scenario, non-superficial people. That normally involves someone who is extremely funny and interesting and nice. However 9/10 times though, people are with people as attractive as themselves. So it's nice that you don't believe in leagues but you are also a 21 year old virgin who can't talk to women you like, so how has that been working out for you?

When people (mostly men) complain that can't get laid, 9/10 times it's because they are going for women too hot and/or cool for themselves. I mean, you admit to having a serious personality flaw, which is treating people you like sexually like shit when you like them. I think it's probably the Madonna-whore complex, which is not uncommon and can be treated with good therapy. Which is what you should do. Many colleges have free therapy programs.

[Mermaid]

My identity is secured. Why would I hide anything? Nobody knows who I am.

Also, I do not believe in "leagues" or any of that bullshit.

The girl I liked dated a man like 15 years older than her, fat and bald who treated her like she didnt exist. The only reason she was with him was for money, even though she could easily get a handsome young man. Dont bullshit with me the "leagues" and all that.

How exactly do you know the reason she was with him? Or is this more self-talk and assumption?

[Whateverist]

My identity is secured. Why would I hide anything? Nobody knows who I am.

Also, I do not believe in "leagues" or any of that bullshit.

The girl I liked dated a man like 15 years older than her, fat and bald who treated her like she didnt exist. The only reason she was with him was for money, even though she could easily get a handsome young man. Dont bullshit with me the "leagues" and all that.

Umm .. you need to ask yourself why that works.  Don't worry, once you're fat, old and bald they'll flock to you like flies on poo poo.

[Macoleco]

Stop telling me I need therapy. I can overcome it myself, which is what you would ultimately do in therapy.

My parents divorced when I was 8 years old, and I used to visit a psychologist. It was useless, and it actually made me feel worse. Stopped going short after.

[Edwardo Piet]

Someone needs to not be a biggot himself first methinks

Oh. I only read his first sentence and I took it to mean that he thinks most people are bigoted against himself for not liking women and that it means he's a 'faggot'.

I guess it would be kind of like being a self-hating Jew though and saying an anti-Semitic slur against yourself though, so yeah.

[CapnAwesome]

Stop telling me I need therapy. I can overcome it myself, which is what you would ultimately do in therapy.

My parents divorced when I was 8 years old, and I used to visit a psychologist. It was useless, and it actually made me feel worse. Stopped going short after.

I'm sure a therapist would do better then a bunch of random strangers on the internet. Also you are not an 8 year old anymore, so needless to say things are different now. I'm sure you can solve your problems on your own, however it will be easier and faster with help. It's just good advice that comes from experience though. You are free to take it or not.