Phrases and idioms that trigger you.
November 1, 2017 at 9:16 pm
(This post was last modified: November 1, 2017 at 9:25 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
Are there any phrases that trigger you into behaving pissed off or feeling like you've being spoken to unfairly? Do you recognize that regardless of how passionate you feel about your triggers they're probably ultimately pretty damn irrational? Or do you disagree and think they are somehow rational? I have plenty of, ultimately irrational, triggers--that I nevertheless feel very passionate about which is why they trigger me--and I can certainly identify some of them:
A few of my triggers are, as some of my friends may have noticed, is: When someone tells me to let something go. When someone tells me to just ignore someone. When someone tells me I always need to have the last word. When someone tells me to try harder. When someone tells me I'm not trying. When someone tells me to 'just think positive' (this is a very minor one and often depends on context, sometimes it doesn't trigger me at all. It's when it's made to sound like it's easy that it's annoying as fuck). When someone tells me I'm being passive aggressive. When someone tells my I won't admit I'm wrong. When someone tells me I'm incapable of disagreement. I also get really triggered by sentences that start with "You need to" or when someone says "..." in a post but it's not used in between statements. I also get triggered by being criticized for 'failing' to agree with advice when I am given it.
Last of all, when I tell someone that I made a mistake because the solution didn't occur to me and their response is "Well it should have occurred to you", not as a simple matter of effect statement like "What a pity eh? If it had occured you you wouldn't have made the mistake! But we don't live in an alternative universe! What a pity!" but in a 'you should have forced it to occur to you and it's your fault it didn't occur to you' kind of way. As if people have contra-causal free will when they don't. That shit really vexes me hard because it's like banging my head against something even more irrational and incoherent than a sky daddy. This is also why I find the superhero, Captain Hindsight, by Trey Parker and Matt Stone, the South Park creators, so utterly hilarious. Whenever people get mad or angry and say "Well you should have done" X or "Well you shouldn't have done" X I feel like sarcastically exclaiming "Thank you Captain Hindsight!".
Sometimes it's not the phrases overall but parts of the phrases that trigger me. e.g. if someone says "Let it go" it triggers me. But if someone says something like "We should let this go" it doesn't trigger me at all. The difference being that the onus is being put on two people having a conversation together, rather than only on me.
This may sound like a long list of rather petty and pathetic (and pedantic (and immature)) triggers . . . but the amount of rude things that can be said to me that DON'T trigger me, and that DON'T insult me (and none of the above upsets me, or makes me unhappy, it just vexes me and makes me feel compelled to strongly object) is probably far less than most people. It takes a lot to really offend or insult me.
What phrases trigger you? Do you have any? Do you have ways to deal with them? If you don't think you have any, or many, do you think that maybe you just fail to recognize them, or be honest to yourself about them, or many of them, or do you think that you are aware and honest about all the triggers you do or don't have?
Do you think being able to identify your own triggers is a good thing? Do you think explicitly making others and your friends aware of your triggers, is a good thing, and a good idea or a bad thing and a bad idea?
Finally, are there parts to the phrases that cause them to trigger you, so that if the phrase was modified slightly they wouldn't trigger you? And can you give any examples of the way your triggery phrases could be modified to not trigger you anymore?
A few of my triggers are, as some of my friends may have noticed, is: When someone tells me to let something go. When someone tells me to just ignore someone. When someone tells me I always need to have the last word. When someone tells me to try harder. When someone tells me I'm not trying. When someone tells me to 'just think positive' (this is a very minor one and often depends on context, sometimes it doesn't trigger me at all. It's when it's made to sound like it's easy that it's annoying as fuck). When someone tells me I'm being passive aggressive. When someone tells my I won't admit I'm wrong. When someone tells me I'm incapable of disagreement. I also get really triggered by sentences that start with "You need to" or when someone says "..." in a post but it's not used in between statements. I also get triggered by being criticized for 'failing' to agree with advice when I am given it.
Last of all, when I tell someone that I made a mistake because the solution didn't occur to me and their response is "Well it should have occurred to you", not as a simple matter of effect statement like "What a pity eh? If it had occured you you wouldn't have made the mistake! But we don't live in an alternative universe! What a pity!" but in a 'you should have forced it to occur to you and it's your fault it didn't occur to you' kind of way. As if people have contra-causal free will when they don't. That shit really vexes me hard because it's like banging my head against something even more irrational and incoherent than a sky daddy. This is also why I find the superhero, Captain Hindsight, by Trey Parker and Matt Stone, the South Park creators, so utterly hilarious. Whenever people get mad or angry and say "Well you should have done" X or "Well you shouldn't have done" X I feel like sarcastically exclaiming "Thank you Captain Hindsight!".
Sometimes it's not the phrases overall but parts of the phrases that trigger me. e.g. if someone says "Let it go" it triggers me. But if someone says something like "We should let this go" it doesn't trigger me at all. The difference being that the onus is being put on two people having a conversation together, rather than only on me.
This may sound like a long list of rather petty and pathetic (and pedantic (and immature)) triggers . . . but the amount of rude things that can be said to me that DON'T trigger me, and that DON'T insult me (and none of the above upsets me, or makes me unhappy, it just vexes me and makes me feel compelled to strongly object) is probably far less than most people. It takes a lot to really offend or insult me.
What phrases trigger you? Do you have any? Do you have ways to deal with them? If you don't think you have any, or many, do you think that maybe you just fail to recognize them, or be honest to yourself about them, or many of them, or do you think that you are aware and honest about all the triggers you do or don't have?
Do you think being able to identify your own triggers is a good thing? Do you think explicitly making others and your friends aware of your triggers, is a good thing, and a good idea or a bad thing and a bad idea?
Finally, are there parts to the phrases that cause them to trigger you, so that if the phrase was modified slightly they wouldn't trigger you? And can you give any examples of the way your triggery phrases could be modified to not trigger you anymore?
But my intention is not to make this thread political hence why I put this in parentheses (Ugh and another one is referring to someone as an 'autist' (intended as an insult) or to speak of 'autistic screeching', which again usually comes from the political right. That's a new one that so far I have fortunately only seen on YouTube comments)).
