Does Anyone Else Ever Feel Like This...?

[notimportant1234]

I'm an introvert too Hammy , maybe you are looking at this the wrong way , I mean an introvert isn't good at expressing emotions so you shouldn't compare yourself with others. Happines is just an emotion you can't pursue it , it is a secondary effect.

[Mr.Obvious]

@Mr Obvious

I think you are overcomplicating and expecting too much from happiness. Happiness is neither being 100% happy nor is the absence of unhappiness any different to the presence of happiness. Happiness is just an emotion and if you're not not happy then you're happy. I don't think happiness is anything special but I do think it's elusive. It's hard to make sense of when we aren't sure what we have is good enough to convince ourselves that we are happy.

Maybe. Though I got the feeling that I've got a clear look on what happiness is. I don't feel like I expect too much from happiness.
I just feel our obssession with it is an artifical construct. That we are driven to be happy by external factors and actors who dangle a cheap and sparkly knock-off in front of us: The coca-cola commercial of life, if you will. Plastic smiles and impossible standards.
We believe the conquest so much that we allow it to consume us; forgetting that happiness is not a destination to be reached but the journey itself. That its not something to be forced but found through balance and acceptance in your own life.
I get the feeling we agree on happiness a lot more than this conversation might let on, at first sight, but that we are talking in different terms and from different angles.

[ignoramus]

Hammy, be happy or I'll come down and punch the unhappiness out of you real quick!

[paulpablo]

I'm an introvert too Hammy , maybe you are looking at this the wrong way , I mean an introvert isn't good at expressing emotions so you shouldn't compare yourself with others. Happines is just an emotion you can't pursue it , it is a secondary effect.

I think you can pursue it and most people do.

Wether it's instant gratification in the form of sex, drugs, sugar, or whatever.
Or if it's more slow release delayed gratification like the satisfaction of a hard day's work, a successful long term relationship, exercise.
Humans in general all aim for contentment or pleasure. The only thing that prevents it is when that contentment or pleasure comes with risks or costs that the individual has decided wouldn't be worth it.

[Edwardo Piet]

I definitely don't think pleasure is the same as happiness. Nor is pain the same as suffering. That's why I can be in pain but not give a shit because I'm happy, and I can also overindulge in sensual pleasures to try and numb my misery, and yet I am still miserable.