Children

[WinterHold]

Weird; right?

This post I mean: but I guess I'm growing up.
Y a a a a a Y !!!!!

I always hated kids, I think kittens are more cute, and human children have smelly assets too: human child saliva is very disgusting and...smelly.
I don't know how to carry them.

But lately, I began to get this... IDK, burn? A feeling I can't describe about having children, it will be cool to have my own.
But still, and there's lot of buts, now the feeling is gone, it's a very big load on me ! It's really scary.

So if you have kids; how does it feel?
And the most important question: if you have a chronic illness that your newborn might catch; would you venture and take the risk anyways?

[Chad32]

I had a lot of interaction with my nieces when they were growing up. They're an absolute handful, and you'd pretty much have to be the child's parent or close relative to want to put up with a kid day and night. I like kids. Not so much drooling babies, but kids are fun to watch, and I like holding a well behaved baby that's not slobbering and pooping and all that. But I wouldn't want to live with one.

[c172]

I have spina bifida, which I am not concerned about passing on. Not sure the stats on it, though. I just plain don't want kids.

[WinterHold]

I had a lot of interaction with my nieces when they were growing up. They're an absolute handful, and you'd pretty much have to be the child's parent or close relative to want to put up with a kid day and night. I like kids. Not so much drooling babies, but kids are fun to watch, and I like holding a well behaved baby that's not slobbering and pooping and all that. But I wouldn't want to live with one.

The saliva is the most terrible part; milk and baby food smells nasty when it's consumed.
It's overwhelming having to put with kids day and night, at least that's how I imagine it.

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I have spina bifida, which I am not concerned about passing on. Not sure the stats on it, though. I just plain don't want kids.

I am very sorry c172.
I have M.S; that's why I'm asking mainly : Thinking about it; it's the right thing to do -cutting the tree of sickness by not having kids-.

[c172]

If you're willing to take care of your kid, and identify all resources required for him/her to have a good quality of life, I'd probably say it's OK. At all the Spina Bifida Association conferences I'd ttend until they cancelled them after Minnesota 2016, there were tons of parents of SB folks amongst the conferencegoers. Some able-bodied folks can be jerks to us, but many are committed to learning how to be inclusive.

But then, I only know SB. I don't know MS, MD, mast cell disorders, Ehlers-Danlos, or other issues. But there's tons of stuff being done in the name of QOL (quality of life), surgically and otherwise. So living with it is fine, but parenting a disabled kid while I have a disability myself is a bit overwhelming. But as I inferred earlier, I don't want kids either way. I just don't like most of them.

[Chad32]

It probably helps that I have almost no sense of smell, Atlas. So as long as they're not staining my shirt, it's ok.

[Ravenshire]

All these horrible things about other peoples kids. They're absolutely true. All I can say is it's different when they're yours.

[c172]

Different good or different worse?

[Chad32]

Depends on whether it's happening during the day in your free time, or in the middle of the night when you're trying to sleep.

[vorlon13]

Nothing compares to the smell of a nice baptized Christian baby in the smoker.