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Children
#21
RE: Children
(December 1, 2017 at 8:48 pm)AtlasS33 Wrote: Weird; right?

This post I mean: but I guess I'm growing up.
Y a a a a a Y !!!!!

I always hated kids, I think kittens are more cute, and human children have smelly assets too: human child saliva is very disgusting and...smelly.
I don't know how to carry them.

But lately, I began to get this... IDK, burn? A feeling I can't describe about having children, it will be cool to have my own.
But still, and there's lot of buts, now the feeling is gone, it's a very big load on me ! It's really scary.

So if you have kids; how does it feel?
And the most important question: if you have a chronic illness that your newborn might catch; would you venture and take the risk anyways?

Humans are diverse not clones of each other. I personally don't want one and am damned glad I don't have one. It was scary enough to take care of my elderly mother, and I freak out when my cat has the sniffles. A kid would really be hard on me mentally. I also know all the risky shit I did as a teen too. That is another reason. Cost as well.

But it isn't wrong if you want one, but they are a huge responsibility. 

I will say this, if you chose to have one, guide, don't dictate. One thing I hated about growing up is my parents treated me like a maid, instead of doing the chores with me. I wouldn't have gotten so discouraged if I felt like I wasn't alone in that. And let your kid think for themselves, don't expect them  to be you because they are not you. Sure you will have to set rules as an adult, but you can do that without being a dictator. Communication is the key. If they feel like they can trust you telling you anything, they will be more open to you when they feel like something is wrong. But simply being an authoritarian, while that might work on some kids, it doesn't work on every kid. 

And just like with spouse, don't call names, don't blame, make your communication about problem solving. Sometimes you will have to put your foot down, but over time if the kid feels like they are being listened to, they are far more likely to respond positively.
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#22
RE: Children
I love kids . I will admit i more partial to girls then boys though .
Seek strength, not to be greater than my brother, but to fight my greatest enemy -- myself.

Inuit Proverb

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#23
RE: Children
(December 2, 2017 at 11:36 am)mlmooney89 Wrote: I don't have a kid just yet but I will in about ten days or less. I've taken care of hundreds of kids when I worked at a daycare for half a decade so I know the mechanics of having a kid around. I can handle the poop, snot, vomit, screaming for hours, etc but I don't know what it's like to do all that at 1am while sleep deprived. It is a very scary idea that I won't be able to give the kid back to their parent at the end of the day unless I hand her to my husband and walk away. I think it will be worth it though. I've suffered through this high risk pregnancy, have ate pretty much the most boring food ever with no alcohol for 9 months, little sleep, and everything hurting but seeing my husband light up when he feels her kick makes it all worth it. We can't wait to hold her despite how scared we are.

10 days or less to go! I am truly excited for you! I too had a high risk pregnancy. I had a perinatologist instead of a regular ob/gyn. 

When she's born, it will have been all worth it.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand. 
(November 14, 2018 at 8:57 pm)The Valkyrie Wrote: Have a good day at work.  If we ever meet in a professional setting, let me answer your question now.  Yes, I DO want fries with that.
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#24
RE: Children
Even if I wasn't disabled, I don't think I'd ever want kids. I don't have the patience. I get tired and frustrated with my niece and nephew after being around them for just a couple hours. I couldn't handle them 24/7.
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