somebody, Please Talk Sense into My Stupid Head. I Think I'm Getting Ready to Fuck Up

[Rhondazvous]

I’m really falling in like with this guy, but two little things make me wonder if I should.

At first, I thought he was gay. It was just a first impression. I was half raised by gay teenagers, so certain little gestures give me that impression.

I thought I was sure he’s gay when he started playing with his pony tail. Yes, he’s white and his ponytail hangs down to the small of his back and he was playing with it in a very effeminate way.

At first, I didn’t care if he’s gay. I enjoyed t talking to him and we were getting along like old pals.

Then he came to visit me and brought his guitar. The man’s voice does things to a song that mere sound has no business doing. He played some songs for me that he had written and made up some chords for a song I had written.

So, I’m starting to like him, and he definitely likes me. I wonder about this and in the context of the conversation I ask him if he’s strictly hetero. He said yes.

Anyway, to make a long story short, this led to that and that led to this and the next thing I know he’s massaging my back. His hands go here and there as a man’s hands will do, and I’m responding to this and next thing …

Well anyway he had his hand on the latch to the door of no return when I remember that I hardly know him and really don’t want to have sex with him. I mean I’m not even remembering that I had thought he was gay, just that I didn’t know enough about him to go there with him.

I’m scared because I feel like next time he touches me I won’t stop, not when we both know neither of us wants to stop. But there’s another reason I think I can’t have a relationship with him. My boy is as sharp as a bowling ball when it comes to legal matters. He was evicted from his apartment because this fundamentalist chick started going around talking about he had assaulted her. I believe him when he says it’s a lie because my body had responded to him and a man with less character would have just said she wants it, so fuck it. But he’d seen how conflicted I was, and he’d respected that.

Problem is he’s talking about representing himself in court to sue the chick and his landlord. He’s going to pass out flyers with his name and phone number offering a thousand dollars to anyone who will testify against the chick.

How can I discourage him from doing this? How can I let myself get involved with a man who’s getting ready to fuck up a life that is already whack? How can I walk away from a man who says I’m the only person in town who he can talk to?

[Minimalist]

Wear a Mike Pence T-Shirt?

That should kill anyone's mood.

[Gawdzilla Sama]

Suggest that the fliers could land him in court for libel.

[Bob Kelso]

Suggest that the fliers could land him in court for libel.

My instinctive reaction is that there’s something nefarious to a bloke that’s willing to pay people to lie under oath, even if it’s not a lie it’s unseemly at best if not outright illegal.

[The Grand Nudger]

I’m really falling in like with this guy, but two little things make me wonder if I should.

At first, I thought he was gay. It was just a first impression. I was half raised by gay teenagers, so certain little gestures give me that impression.

I thought I was sure he’s gay when he started playing with his pony tail. Yes, he’s white and his ponytail hangs down to the small of his back and he was playing with it in a very effeminate way.

Hahahah, I used to do that with mine, before I shaved my head.  It's a TRAP!  He knows what he's doing.  I bet he has great hair, too...huh....  

At first, I didn’t care if he’s gay. I enjoyed t talking to him and we were getting along like old pals.

Then he came to visit me and brought his guitar. The man’s voice does things to a song that mere sound has no business doing. He played some songs for me that he had written and made up some chords for a song I had written.

So, I’m starting to like him, and he definitely likes me. I wonder about this and in the context of the conversation I ask him if he’s strictly hetero. He said yes.

P-I-M-P.

Anyway, to make a long story short, this led to that and that led to this and the next thing I know he’s massaging my back.  His hands go here and there as a man’s hands will do, and I’m responding to this and next thing …

Players gotta play play play play play.  

Well anyway he had his hand on the latch to the door of no return when I remember that I hardly know him and really don’t want to have sex with him. I mean I’m not even remembering that I had thought he was gay, just that I didn’t know enough about him to go there with him.

I’m scared because I feel like next time he touches me I won’t stop, not when we both know neither of us wants to stop. But there’s another reason I think I can’t have a relationship with him. My boy is as sharp as a bowling ball when it comes to legal matters. He was evicted from his apartment because this fundamentalist chick started going around talking about he had assaulted her. I believe him when he says it’s a lie because my body had responded to him and a man with less character would have just said she wants it, so fuck it. But he’d seen how conflicted I was, and he’d respected that.

Problem is he’s talking about representing himself in court to sue the chick and his landlord. He’s going to pass out flyers with his name and phone number offering a thousand dollars to anyone who will testify against the chick.

Fuckin dooo eet, go all in.  

How can I discourage him from doing this? How can I let myself get involved with a man who’s getting ready to fuck up a life that is already whack? How can I walk away from a man who says I’m the only person in town who he can talk to?

Stress to him that he's not going to beat a lawyer at lawyerin, period.  No matter how smart he thinks he is (or you think he is)...the other guy..for better or for worse..knows the rules of the game.  Does he have a thousand bucks...even if he does, is that the best use of that thousand bucks?  Maybe he should spend that money on a lawyer?

I loved the falling in like thing, though.  

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(honestly, this would all be my advice even if he was a secret asshole - that ain't your fault, nothing you can do about that - but you should still roll with it)

[Silver]

I need to see a picture of him first: yes, I judge people better that way.

[brewer]

He needs to consult an attorney. You know the whole representing yourself in court saying. If it small claims court, that's another story, but he can still consult an attorney.

Yeah, the flyers need to stop. Paying for testimony is a big no no as far as I'm concerned. 

Have you googled him? Paid for an online background check? Might be worth the money if you have serious concerns. (usually less than $40)

That said, knocking just one out can't hurt that much. What if he totally sucks at it? If it turns out to rock your world, move forward from there. 

Tell him that before it gets serious you need to see his credit report. HAH!

[Ravenshire]

My advice. Check him out before you get in too deep. Guy sounds shady as hell.

[Haipule]

I’m really falling in like with this guy, but two little things make me wonder if I should.

At first, I thought he was gay. It was just a first impression. I was half raised by gay teenagers, so certain little gestures give me that impression.

I thought I was sure he’s gay when he started playing with his pony tail. Yes, he’s white and his ponytail hangs down to the small of his back and he was playing with it in a very effeminate way.

At first, I didn’t care if he’s gay. I enjoyed t talking to him and we were getting along like old pals.

Then he came to visit me and brought his guitar. The man’s voice does things to a song that mere sound has no business doing. He played some songs for me that he had written and made up some chords for a song I had written.

So, I’m starting to like him, and he definitely likes me. I wonder about this and in the context of the conversation I ask him if he’s strictly hetero. He said yes.

Anyway, to make a long story short, this led to that and that led to this and the next thing I know he’s massaging my back.  His hands go here and there as a man’s hands will do, and I’m responding to this and next thing …

Well anyway he had his hand on the latch to the door of no return when I remember that I hardly know him and really don’t want to have sex with him. I mean I’m not even remembering that I had thought he was gay, just that I didn’t know enough about him to go there with him.

I’m scared because I feel like next time he touches me I won’t stop, not when we both know neither of us wants to stop. But there’s another reason I think I can’t have a relationship with him. My boy is as sharp as a bowling ball when it comes to legal matters. He was evicted from his apartment because this fundamentalist chick started going around talking about he had assaulted her. I believe him when he says it’s a lie because my body had responded to him and a man with less character would have just said she wants it, so fuck it. But he’d seen how conflicted I was, and he’d respected that.

Problem is he’s talking about representing himself in court to sue the chick and his landlord. He’s going to pass out flyers with his name and phone number offering a thousand dollars to anyone who will testify against the chick.

How can I discourage him from doing this? How can I let myself get involved with a man who’s getting ready to fuck up a life that is already whack? How can I walk away from a man who says I’m the only person in town who he can talk to?

Stupid is as stupid does. I'm assuming your a young chick. Well, guess what, the men your own age are a nightmare! Because they are yet untested and unchallenged to be anything more than a cum stain! Is he going to be a murderer? Is he going to be a child molester? Is he going to be a wife beating alcoholic? Is he going to be a drug using dealing criminal? Or a prince? 

You, and nobody else knows, NOBODY knows what this potential prince will be!

I can never understand why my wife married me at 36 after, just prior, being homeless for three years. Yet, I made her a millionaire! I took her around the world for 10yrs!

The act of honoring her, made many a young, and old, chick fall in love with me.


Apparently, women prefer the guarantee and not the promise!

[Silver]

Don't listen to haipule.