RE: Homeschooling children.
November 30, 2011 at 8:59 pm
(This post was last modified: November 30, 2011 at 9:04 pm by Ziploc Surprise.)
Quote:If you take her out of school, remember there are many groups of parents who have done the same that meet up regularly so their kids socialise with others, find them and ask what they know etc.
Unfortunately many of these are fundies. This is what I fear.
My daughter has serious difficulty picking up social clues from the environment. It's like being socially retarded. It's a trait that runs in my family. Eventually you outgrow some of the problems or find ways around it. At the same time the children growing up with you have matured enough to be able to accept you and interact with you socially. Until that time life is hell. To make matters worse my daughter has the critical thinking ability of a high school student. She can't seem to turn off the logic and analysis. It's like being extremely unbalanced. 5th graders don't understand her.
My daughter also has difficulty with distractions. She needs peace and quiet. It's like she can do the social thing (poorly) or studying but she can't multitask. She can't even switch back and forth very well.
The worst problem of all is the incessant bullying. The kids have singled her out as the kid to pick on. They know that the teachers won't do much about it. My daughter doesn't have the social skills to fight back without hitting. When she does defend herself she gets in trouble and often the bully gets away with it. I've tried working with the school, little gets done. I've tried working with the school counselor, this has been somewhat successful. Unfortunately the more successful it is the less she gets to spend with the counselor. Then her behavior gets worse and she spends more time with the counselor. It's a cycle.
Meanwhile Her self esteem is horrible, she doesn't smile much and she has no one to talk to (of course almost no one talks to her because shes the "weirdo"). Things are so bad in her school that people who would ordinarily talk to her are afraid to for fear of getting teased by the other students.
I tried to get her involved with Girl Scouts. I thought this might help her socially, but the girls didn't accept her she was ostracized at the weirdo. Consistently any extracurricular activity that provides socialization follows this pattern. She didn't even do well in the church youth group back when I used to go to church.
As for special ed, if you are retarded they have a program for you. If you are socially retarded but have the critical thinking ability of a high school student you are screwed. They are the same way with ADD children. Their way of dealing with them is to drug them. I fought for years to keep my son from being drugged. I won. Now my son has "magically" outgrown his ADD (translation: he matured) and he is an A/B student in the gifted and talented program. He is also one project away from getting Eagle Scout with the Boy Scouts.
(November 30, 2011 at 8:25 pm)aleialoura Wrote: I have looked into it before. I could not find a secular home schooling program. They all had bible study as a part of the required curriculum.
It's not just the Bible study that's the problem. Woven into many programs is creation "science" or "intelligent" design. They also infect history. They do the usual fundie thing and "prove" that the founding fathers of the U.S. were Christians and that the U.S. was founded as a Christian (obviously protestant) country. I always find it funny how they try to shoe horn Benjamin Franklin into a Christian mold.
I have studied the Bible and the theology behind Christianity for many years. I have been to many churches. I have walked the depth and the breadth of the religion and, as a result of this, I have a lot of bullshit to scrape off the bottom of my shoes. ~Ziploc Surprise
