Are you okay with your (or your partner's) vajayjay?

[Catholic_Lady]

I disagree with this completely lol. Homophobia is not being grossed out by the thought of doing sexual things with other men when you are not attracted to men. 

I am grossed out by the thought of doing sexual things with *anyone* I'm not attracted to. Regardless of their gender. And since I'm not attracted to any woman, it grosses me out to think about going down on one. This is not homophobia lol.

I get your point, in that you're talking about needing to be attracted to someone before any sexual act whatsoever becomes palatable to you. That's fair. But I think both of you are overlooking my point. I'll try to come up with a better illustration of my point...

Say that (somehow, let's use magic), your husband got his wang cut off in an unfortunate accident at work, was rushed to the hospital and given a sex-change operation. This is a person to whom you are attracted, with whom you are in love, and yet I suspect if you examine your motives clearly enough, you'd find you're still repulsed by the idea of vagina. Again, it's okay. We need a different word for the distinction between homophobia and hatred... I actually dislike when the term "homophobia" is used to describe hateful and active bigotry against the LGBTQ community.

Obviously I'd still love him and be attracted to him, and he'd still be a man. But would I like that his penis turned into a "fake" vagina? No. Again, I don't think this has anything to do with homophobia. I'm a heterosexual woman. I am attracted to men and men parts lol.

Why not tell us what exact definition of "homophobia" you are using? This may help clear up any misunderstanding.