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[Edwardo Piet]

I'm not sure how many times I'll have to say that I don't think you're "a homophobe" before it is comprehended.

One time. And I replied to it in my previous post.

And yes, despite growing up in theatre (mother is a theatre professor) and thus being around open homosexuals from the earliest age I can remember, despite volunteering for HIV/AIDS charities and supporting that community literally my entire adult life, and having roughly half my circle of friends be homosexuals... yeah... I don't know what it means.

You figured me out!

You don't need to prove you're not a homophobe... and neither do I, but seen as you suggested I was one I got upset. I told you it was irrational of me for being so sensitive but I reclarified my position and still you pushed it at me. I don't like being associated with the bigots I despise. 

Homophobia is very simple: "homo" = same (as in same-sex) and "phobos" = fear (often used in context of hate or loathing). Thus, homophobia is any feelings of fear toward same-sex attractions, or those who act upon them, or the act itself.

Actually you can't just use etymology to define everything, language is more complicated than that and meanings change.

But yeah your etymological definition is correct etymologically.

If I tell someone they may have unexamined racist feelings, based on the phrasing of something they said, and they explode at me with a torrent of "maybe YOU'RE the racist!!" and similar expressions of anger, it suggests that they may be frightened at what they would find if they looked inside their own heart.

I didn't explode at you, and I'm not even angry just a little pissed off because I had to re-explain myself over and over and I feel you're like talking to a brick wall. You're the one being dramatic and sending me huge posts on why I might be homophobic because I by definition don't enjoy sucking dick as a straight guy (so far, I'm totally open to the possibility of being bisexual in future). Big pushy pedantic posts.... I'm not the dramatic one here, I tried to sensitively explain why I was sensitive and irrational and explain my position. Please let me breathe.

Listen, I haven't got the energy for this pointless debate based on the most tenuous ridiculous non-existent evidence despite a re clarified position making the evidence not just tenuous and close to zero but zero. I've been here on these forums since the beginning off and on - I used to be here for serious debate but now I'm here for lighthearted fun. I'm fine to give serious answers but I don't appreciate having to try so damn hard to clarify what I see as an essentially extremely simple position. Exhausting bullshit like this is one of the reasons I stopped posting so regularly.