(October 6, 2015 at 6:33 pm)TheRocketSurgeon Wrote: The penis, like the vagina, is just a body part. It is not icky, it is not gross. It's just a part. We're systematically taught to be grossed out by them and/or ashamed of them, by a culture that is rooted in anti-sex religious ideologies, even if we don't easily spot the programs as they operate in our own minds. However, several books on sexual psychology go into pretty good depth on this sexual-cultural pathology.
As for the supposed "grossness" of putting a penis in your mouth, you're a couple of million times worse-off (literally, from a bacteria-count point of view) kissing a girl's hand as putting a penis or a vagina in your mouth, whether or not they are all washed. Human mouths are not much better, and are in fact worse than our genitals. These are some of the amazing things I learned in Microbiology 211. After learning just how dirty our hands and mouth are while testing various portions of the body (even did butts... yep, swabbed that sphincter!), despite our class's best efforts at brushing and rinsing mouths, and washing hospital-scrub-style with antimicrobial soap in the case of our hands, I did some quick math and realized that our genitals were significantly cleaner than the mouths they were going into.
So all the "eww" is all in our minds. You want to really be grossed out? Look at cheese or yogurt on a microscope slide, spread very thin and gram-stained so they show up. Trust me, it's a Bad Idea™.
Point is, while I'm not attracted to men sexually, from a "grossness" point of view, you're much, much better off sucking a dick than a finger. No joke.
How about the psychological eww of doing something sexual with someone you're not comfortable having sex with regardless of orientation??
I completely disagree with you. Eww isn't always about germs. People have a right to be uncomfortable with the thought of a sexual experience that makes them uncomfortable. It's not bigoted or immature.
It's hard to give a gender based example because I consider myself pansexual. But I would compare it to the thought of a sexual experience with someone who I am not comfortable. Eww. Yes the thought I have is eww. Some stranger who gives me a creepy vibe, the thought of doing anything sexual with them is eww to me. I don't think that makes me immature.
