(October 7, 2015 at 3:11 am)MTL Wrote:(October 7, 2015 at 2:41 am)Losty Wrote: And of course I mean you generally and not you personally.
But I think it's ok to be sexually repulsed by the idea of men or women or anal sex or hand jobs or whatever thing it is that repulses you for whatever reason. So long as you're not trying to push your views on someone else, then there's no harm in letting yourself feel how you honestly feel.
I can't argue with that;
however I don't think it hurts to encourage people to challenge THEMSELVES on their initial, knee-jerk reactions to things.
For instance, I would never say to a pair of gay men who decided that they didn't want to have anal sex,
"Oh, but you're gay, you SHOULDN'T have any problem with that! "
but part of the reason I wouldn't say that to them is because a pair of openly gay men have probably already tried or discussed this issue, in some detail, by that point in their lives.
Whereas, if I encountered some rednecky straight guy who couldn't even stand to be in the same room as a gay man (even if the straight guy didn't disagree with LGBT rights), I would encourage, given the opportunity, the straight man to question himself as to WHY simply being in the same room as a gay man was such a repulsive idea?
I'm just saying that people should be willing to ask THEMSELVES why they react with revulsion to things that might not be any threat to them....whether it's something sexual, or something mundane and banal.
I also agree with this completely. There's nothing wrong with asking or encouraging people to question or challenge themselves.
I just think it's wrong to label a person as a homophobe or a bigot (because let's face it a homophobe is a bigot) just because the personally are disgusted for themselves.
