Are you okay with your (or your partner's) vajayjay?

[Whateverist]

I'm going to weigh in here.

I identify as a straight woman.

---

However, if the circumstances were IDEAL, I would sleep with a woman.

Those ideal circumstances will almost certainly never occur,
and I don't think my life will be any the poorer for it.

Now, let me be crystal clear:  I am pro-LGBT all the way.

---

And if I WAS bisexual or a lesbian, the closet wouldn't even exist.
I'd smash it to bits.

---

But I do not identify as bisexual because I really do not feel that this is an accurate description of my sexuality,
DESPITE the fact that I would have sex with a woman under ideal circumstances.

When I was much younger,
I admit, to my great shame,
that if I had heard a man saying something like,

" Oh, I'm not gay, but I don't mind getting a blowjob from a guy, occasionally, "

I would have scoffed and deemed him a closeted homosexual.

Nowadays, I wouldn't, because I have the insight that it is possible to have mutual gratification
without being attracted to the gender of the person you're engaging with.

I can get a neck massage from a man or a woman.

I can have an orgasm with a man or a woman.

The difference is that I could never fall in love with a woman,
want to kiss a woman, hold her hand, or cuddle with her.

I would never have a "girlfriend".

HOWEVER, what is relevant to this discussion is the following point:

If a certain man wants to be intimate with me,
and I do not find him attractive,
would I find intimacy with him repulsive? 

yes, of course.

but the same law applies to women.
If I find her unattractive to begin with,
then needless to say intimacy with her is going to be off the table.

But here's the difference:

Despite being a straight woman,

I am not going to write off intimacy with all women on the basis of their gender, alone.

I am going to base it on how comfortable I feel with that particular woman.

The mere fact that someone has a pussy instead of a cock is not enough to make them automatically repulsive to me, as a potential sexual partner.

It IS enough, however, to tell me that they could never be a serious romantic partner;

because as a straight woman,

both men and women are capable of being repulsive to me,

but only men are capable of arousing passion in me.

The most I can feel with a woman is neutrality.

---

I feel pretty much the same way.  When I was a teenager I questioned why I had this yucky take on gay sex.  (Interesting that being more than okay with lesbian sex seems to be part and parcel of being a straight man.)  So I deliberately fantasized about it to the point where it just became another kind of sex.  The yucky reaction went away and I found I just am predominantly straight.  I like women's bodies much more and only romantically attach to them.  But there is something about a cigar which is pretty intense - I just don't attach a face to it.