My first reaction to the thread's title was...
But then I read the OP...
Well, there's an old saying around here which translates roughly to: "a scalded cat is afraid of cold water".
She had been deceived once (at least) and was not looking forward to a second turn, so "shields up". Makes sense.
You, however, were being honest and felt it as a knife plunging into your resolve.
Then came that "congratulations"... one carrying a bit of sarcasm (due to lack of faith in you) and, I guess, a bit of encouragement (in case you were being honest... or even if you were just exaggerating the number of days).
You pursued a line of inquiry which led her to give you her main gut feeling about it - suspicion.
That shattered you. And here you are, asking who's right and who's wrong.
In my view, the best course of action is to persevere in your resolve to break the addiction. In time, either she'll become convinced that you've actually done it, or be replaced by someone who does appreciate that.
Why does it matter who's right and who's wrong?
Each is right in their own eyes.
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But then I read the OP...
Well, there's an old saying around here which translates roughly to: "a scalded cat is afraid of cold water".
She had been deceived once (at least) and was not looking forward to a second turn, so "shields up". Makes sense.
You, however, were being honest and felt it as a knife plunging into your resolve.
Then came that "congratulations"... one carrying a bit of sarcasm (due to lack of faith in you) and, I guess, a bit of encouragement (in case you were being honest... or even if you were just exaggerating the number of days).
You pursued a line of inquiry which led her to give you her main gut feeling about it - suspicion.
That shattered you. And here you are, asking who's right and who's wrong.
In my view, the best course of action is to persevere in your resolve to break the addiction. In time, either she'll become convinced that you've actually done it, or be replaced by someone who does appreciate that.
Why does it matter who's right and who's wrong?
Each is right in their own eyes.
