(December 8, 2015 at 1:36 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote:(December 8, 2015 at 1:16 pm)pocaracas Wrote: Why does it matter who's right and who's wrong?
Each is right in their own eyes.
Thanks for your opinion, first off -- lot of insight in there, and it's much appreciated.
I'm the sort of guy who will ask if I'm being wrong about something. In this particular matter, our positions seem pretty intractable, and efforts at resolution run aground on each our convictions of rightness. I wanted to phrase it as a poll so I could get a quick glimpse of opinion, and also wanted well-thought answers -- and I've certainly gotten that. But collecting those opinions would have invoked "right" and "wrong" immediately.
Why does that matter? Because if I'm wrong in my behavior, I need to change it; and if I'm right, I need to stand up for myself. And the same can be said of her.
Thanks again for you answer, Poca.
Sometimes, it's not that you're wrong... it's that you're approaching it wrongly.
Why stand up for yourself in such a thing as her not believing you completely? It's to be expected (considering your history) and, the more you try to show her (in a stalker way) how she's wrong, the more you'll drive her away. That's to be expected, too.
People don't like confrontation.
People don't like to be called liars, when they're sure they're being truthful.
If you really want to show her how you've changed, be calm and tactful about it.
Actually show her how you changed that aspect of yourself, instead of shoving it down her throat, if you get my meaning. Let her come to that conclusion.
