(December 8, 2015 at 4:22 pm)paulpablo Wrote:(December 8, 2015 at 1:36 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: Thanks for your opinion, first off -- lot of insight in there, and it's much appreciated.
I'm the sort of guy who will ask if I'm being wrong about something. In this particular matter, our positions seem pretty intractable, and efforts at resolution run aground on each our convictions of rightness. I wanted to phrase it as a poll so I could get a quick glimpse of opinion, and also wanted well-thought answers -- and I've certainly gotten that. But collecting those opinions would have invoked "right" and "wrong" immediately.
Why does that matter? Because if I'm wrong in my behavior, I need to change it; and if I'm right, I need to stand up for myself. And the same can be said of her.
Thanks again for you answer, Poca.
I voted you being right but I'm still confused about a few things.
You did tell her about the logical contradiction between congratulating you on something after stating she doesn't believe you have done the thing she is congratulating you for?
Was the congratulations sarcastic? Is she simply just overlooking this contradiction?
Yes, I explained my view of the contradiction using exactly that word. I don't believe her congratulations were sarcasm at all; I'm sure, especially after further discussion, that she was sincere. She simply rejects my point. She has not at any time indicated that they were a subtle form of apology.
