Taking care of elderly family being only child.

[Athene]

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My father has a degenerative neurological condition and is at home with my mother, where she refused to accept any outside help in taking care of him until recently. I wound up having to be the bad guy by informing her that caring for him at home with absolutely no assistance was no longer acceptable. Suffice it to say that a lot of anger and stuff transpired in between, but he now has home health visits several days a week, the proper assistive devices and equipment, and she also "allows" me to come and assist with his care as well. 

No one wants likes being forced to play hardball with their sick or aging parents. Unfortunately, we have to take on the role of parents to our parents sometimes, and decisions have to be made for them.

You're mother sounds like a sweet lady, who simply wants to take care of herself as long as she can. Help her in that pursuit as long as it's a reasonable option.

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Yes she is, our personalities conflict and we really are different, but when push comes to shove if you have her in your corner, you have a great person in your life. She is great to me, and that is what makes this frustrating sometimes, I simply don't want anything bad to happen to her.

Maybe she could be talked into hiring a companion to come in and visit with her a couple of hours a day until she's completely recovered. Someone to check in on her, maybe do light errands and generally make sure she's okay. And also, let you know what's what.