How would you suggest going about dealing with an ignorant extended family member

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It seems to me some people think like this:

"If I don't keep being openly aggressive about how much I hate gays, people might think I am gay!"

Of course, such people probably either have some fundamental reason why they think being gay is "wrong" in some way, or they are gay/bi themselves and are trying to convince themselves they are not.

People who feel secure don't need to constantly oppress others. If someone thinks I'm gay, I don't care! They can think what they like. Not that thinking I'm gay would be what I'd consider to be a negative assessment anyway. It would just be how I come across to that person.