(January 3, 2016 at 10:10 am)excitedpenguin Wrote:(January 3, 2016 at 10:03 am)Thena323 Wrote: I've always felt that it is my duty as a parent to prepare my children for a world without me in it. I can't and won't always be around. It's best to level with them, in my view.
Timing/age-appropriateness should be taken into account, though. The bliss of childhood innocence is wonderful, until it threatens to cause problems for them.
When my boys were younger, they didn't always heed my warnings about wandering off/stranger danger until I told them precisely what happens to children that go missing (without being completely graphic). They faces fell, but they finally got it after that.
I hated for them to know that, but they needed to.
That sounds like overdoing it. Did you consult how many kids do in fact get kidnapped on average, before you went ahead and told them that?
It's not always direct kidnapping and killing that results in children going off with strangers. I personally know of several people who have been flashed by strangers and just had minor sexual confrontations with adults when they were children and I would definitely warn my children of these type of adults.
I'm around 80% sure that I was approached by some sort of sexual predator when I was younger and out playing with my friend, we had just entered a back ally and this random guy who looked about 30 came walking up and said "Hey how are you doing, pass the ball, do you fancy some sweets?" he basically sounded like the most stereotypical pedo that teachers and parents warned us about so we just ran right the fuck out of there.
Maybe me and my friend overdid it, and we could have had got some nice sweets from a guy and had a nice chat, on the other hand what the fuck is a guy who's around 30 years old doing approaching children in allyways behind houses for?
No offense to you intended but it is totally fucking dopey to consider it "overdoing it" to tell your kids what might happen if you do go off with strangers and that not all adults are to be trusted. I know that you're going off the statistics that not many children are kidnapped by strangers but like I say it's not all about kidnapping, I just wouldn't want my kids to be taken somewhere with an adult who wants to show them something, or give them sweets or touch them in some way or anything like that.
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Impersonation is treason.
