How honest should parents be?

[paulpablo]

It's not always direct kidnapping and killing that results in children going off with strangers.  I personally know of several people who have been flashed by strangers and just had minor sexual confrontations with adults when they were children and I would definitely warn my children of these type of adults.

I'm around 80% sure that I was approached by some sort of sexual predator when I was younger and out playing with my friend, we had just entered a back ally and this random guy who looked about 30 came walking up and said "Hey how are you doing, pass the ball, do you fancy some sweets?" he basically sounded like the most stereotypical pedo that teachers and parents warned us about so we just ran right the fuck out of there.
Maybe me and my friend overdid it, and we could have had got some nice sweets from a guy and had a nice chat, on the other hand what the fuck is a guy who's around 30 years old doing approaching children in allyways behind houses for? 

No offense to you intended but it is totally fucking dopey to consider it "overdoing it" to tell your kids what might happen if you do go off with strangers and that not all adults are to be trusted.  I know that you're going off the statistics that not many children are kidnapped by strangers but like I say it's not all about kidnapping, I just wouldn't want my kids to be taken somewhere with an adult who wants to show them something, or give them sweets or touch them in some way or anything like that.

Yeah, that's why you keep an eye on them. And yes, sometimes it may happen that you let them play somewhere where no one keeps an eye on what's happening, which you shouldn't do to begin with to avoid those kinds of situations, but then you don't need to get unnecessarily graphic about what might happen to them and inadvertently traumatize them anyway. Thus my comment about how she might've overdone it.

This is getting on my fucking nerves. You're arguing against something I didn't necessarily say. Maybe you should pay closer attention to what I did say. I said she was overdoing it, for example, not blaming her for doing it at all, which I should and I am, albeit to a lesser degree, but I didn't and we didn't get around to that yet, until just now.

 
 it's impossible to always keep an eye on your children. It would mean following them for the first 12 years of their life, It's common for children of 11 or 12 to take public transport on their own and be miles away from parents and go where they want.

Thena said she told her kids precisely what happens (without being too graphic) about what happens when children are kidnapped.

So now you're saying well that might be over doing it because it might be too graphic, well she specifically said she explained it without being too graphic.

So you're arguing about something which was specifically already dealt with in the first post which you were replying to.