(January 4, 2016 at 2:40 am)Thumpalumpacus Wrote:(January 3, 2016 at 11:17 pm)excitedpenguin Wrote: And yes, sometimes it may happen that you let them play somewhere where no one keeps an eye on what's happening, which you shouldn't do to begin with to avoid those kinds of situations [...]
Yes, and ...
(January 4, 2016 at 12:01 am)excitedpenguin Wrote: [...] Parents can be overprotective and that can fuck someone up really bad, as well as making the problem they were trying to solve substantially worse in the long-run.
You're clearly trying to have it both ways. Further, what you clearly don't understand is that the job of the parent doesn't solely consist of protecting the child. It also consists of teaching that child how to safely navigate the world on his own. That can't be done by suddenly turning them loose at sixteen without having mentioned to them the dangers of drug use or unsafe sex; that can't be done by wrapping them in bubble-wrap and locking them in their room; that can't be done by sheltering them from knowledge of danger.
That can only be done by forewarning them of danger so that on the offchance they find themselves in that corner, you've improved their odds.
You would do well to give future adults more credit than that. You can't really be that much of an influence on a kid, no matter how hard you may try. A person is far more shaped by his culture than his parents could possibly ever affect him. There's a reason teenagers are rebels by nature.
