RE: How honest should parents be?
January 4, 2016 at 4:17 pm
(This post was last modified: January 4, 2016 at 4:29 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(January 4, 2016 at 3:36 pm)Aoi Magi Wrote: Apology is an art... it is beyond truth and lies... it stimulates the emotions of beauty and drowns hatred.... it's such a beautiful thing...
Yeh... I am crazy
I'll get back to work now
No you're not crazy, I agree with you.
Apologizing is an art, and so is apologizing for apologizing so much, and so is unapologetically apologizing, too.
Apologizing can make one feel better. It can be an impulse that when fulfilled is reassuring.
Whenever possible I think it's best not to feel too guilty when one apologizes, but if you do, fuck it. Feeling guilty for feeling guilty is self-defeating, but so is feeling guilty for feeling guilty for feeling guilty, and so on
I also think when friends let you know that you haven't actually done anything wrong if you clearly haven't but you feel you have, that reassurance can be good and feel good, but no pressure should be involved. A friend could say something like: "If you feel guilty that's okay, don't feel guilty about feeling guilty because that's feeling guilty about being who you are. Just let me make it clear that I honestly believe you have done nothing wrong and have nothing to feel guilty about, including you don't need to feel guilty for feeling guilty either, you're fine no matter what and you've done nothing wrong...you're being hard on yourself as usual
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