(January 4, 2016 at 5:10 pm)Losty Wrote:(January 4, 2016 at 4:18 pm)Kingpin Wrote: Indeed it is. I think far too many people think of apologies as a way to make themselves feel better. You don't apologize to make yourself feel better. You apologize because you were wrong and you want to restore relationship with the person you wronged.
There are a lot of reasons to apologize. Sometimes you apologize because even though you weren't wrong the apology is necessary. Such as, when a friend of mine confided in me that she planned to commit suicide and I told her parents. I don't think I was wrong, but she needed the apology just the same.
Certainly that would be a situation where you apologized betraying the trust of a friend which could be classified as wrong in their eyes but justified in yours because of the circumstances. Either way, you apologize to restore relationship with them, not for your personal feelings.
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