Ive lost all trust for my mom

[Thumpalumpacus]

but they can make his life a living hell.

And he can't make their life a living hell?

Quid pro quo.

I have lived to long and have dealt with too much bullshit in my life to allow others to have any control over how I live.

... and I've lived too long and dealt with too much bullshit to not examine the limits of my own sphere of control and act accordingly.

Advice is easy to give when you're not the one dealing with the fallout.