hate the sin, love the sinner

[Pat Mustard]

It doesn't work for me. Christians love to call me an immoral sinner and say they love me anyway. I don't buy it. I'm tired of this sort of passive-aggressive bullshittery. It's just a way of them looking down on me for who I am without needing to feeling guilty about it.

This. The formulation is used because they want to persecute and otherise those who don't believe or act as they do but the leaders have come to realise that openly hating the other is counterproductive in this part of the world, due to enough people having sufficient information to make an informed judgement and realise the hate is baseless. Look to third world countries where the churches drop their "love the sinner" bit when getting across the message of hate.