hate the sin, love the sinner

[FatAndFaithless]

And yes, parents often need to punish their children to instill better ideas or behaviors, but that's not how I would describe a lot of the stories that we get from people who come out as gay or atheist to their fundamentalist families.  

Do they? My father took me aside and told me a story from his own life when I did something wrong. He had a very dangerous childhood, living through two civil wars and the Hitler years. So there was ample room for finding instances of why children should obey their parents at certain times.

Perhaps I shouldn't have used the word "often," but not every problem can be solved by a story.  Hell, I'd consider taking away their phone for a week or putting them in timeout as 'punishment,' it's just nothing like the punishment that the Bible recommends for certain sins, or that we hear about from fundamentalists.