Church demands the victim apologize to pastor's wife since the pastor did the rape.

[RoadRunner79]

So you would disagree with this definition then.
From:  https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/make_amends


I think that the one who was wronged in a situation, can attempt to make amends.  Although really it is not a single sided endeavor.  

To make reparations or your definition is not a wrong definition, but it is not the only one.

I've emphasized the problematic part of that definition (not that I regard Wiktionary as a better English reference than the Oxford English Dictionary).

Putting the onus on her to make amends is the issue, don't you agree? After all, it was the Church employee who violated her, not the other way 'round. Requiring her to make amends (if that is actually what happened) seems to me to be blame-shifting.

I went with a definition for what I have heard, which would be akin to making peace with. It was a meaning that I am familiar with, and how I took the context from the quote given previously. I don't think that making amends, only means reparations or payment, nor that it implies that something is owed. Dictionaries are not always perfect, and the meanings of words can vary (perhaps this view is more prevalent here)

I'm not putting the onus only on her, and can imagine, that it may be more difficult for the wife to make amends. Also from what the church said, they didn't require anything. I don't think it is about blame.