How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?

[Drich]

then why attack me for not offering the usual pity statements?

I'm not attacking you for not offering pity; I'm attacking you for lacking decency.
Read. Learn the difference. 

You were NOT being constructive when you to responded to EACH ONE of the reasons she presented as to why someone may not report a rape, with a dick-jerking emoji. Are you going to continue to pretend that you only came here to help her heal, when that post is available for everyone to see? 

Quit pissing on my leg, and telling me it's raining. You're a fucking liar, Drich. 
Plain and simple.

then please define the two..

I see decency as something that will ultimately free a person from a chain or shackle/something like this from which the bind themselves. even if like medcine it taste bad up front.

I see empty platitudes and pity as empty self reenforcing alternative to proper help. I see what is easier for me to say, hurting the person more long term. I see that as the true evil. I don't get you people. you pretend to care for one another but only in carfully drawn out rituals... None of you are willing to get down and dirty and help a fellow member do anything other than toe the line of grief the way she has always dealt with it.