Not every pedophile is a rapist.

[Regina]

I don't buy pedophilia being a legit "born this way" sexuality that people have no control over, if I'm honest. I just don't see how exclusive attraction to a certain age works, as though you'd be attracted to a teenager and then on their 18th birthday they're suddenly not attractive to you anymore. That makes no sense.

It's a fetish for having power in sex and for virgins/inexperienced sex at most, I don't consider it a fully fledged sexuality.

Well I disagree with you there. Because if you have noticed, the taste of everyone changes with age, too. For example, when you were 12 years old, you used to liked girls of the same age. Now you have grown up, and you like grown up girls. I dont think it is a fetish because a fetish involves will and decision. Feeling an uncontrolable desire for kids is different.

Yes but a 12 year old being attracted to another 12/13 year old is not the same thing as a 40 year old being attracted to someone of that age.

People date within their respective age group because they have a lot of common ground with eachother, based on them being the same age. That floats throughout life. I was attracted to other teenagers when I was a teenager yes, and that was appropriate at the time because 15 year old me dating another 15 year old was not an un-even power dynamic.

But I'm older now and I don't personally relate to teenage life anymore, so I've lost my interest for teen boys and have developed an interest for men in their 20s, because that's my current age and it's what I currently relate to the most.

I think it does involve will and decision. Let's entertain the idea, you've got someone who for whatever reason is attracted to child-like features. Why don't they just find themselves an Ariana Grande or a Josh Hutcherson, a legal adult who happens to have young-looking features? There are plenty of adults like that out there these people can aim for, but instead it has to be a child? That's what I mean when I say it's a fetish. If an old adult (who doesn't emotionally/personally connect to teenagers at their age) not only sees it as a physical thing but actually wants a child partner, it's because they get off to the feeling of having sexual power over someone inexperienced with sex. That's a fetish, not a sexuality.