Your friend tells you they're a paedophile

[Excited Penguin]

It's a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde thing. The rest of the world sees Dr. Jekyll while his victim sees Mr. Hyde behind closed doors. People can be charming and charismatic one moment, shut the door, and slam someone up against a wall the next.

I still don't understand how this is relevant to the topic at hand. You see a discussion involving something highly upsetting for you and you proceed to throw your emotions at it. It makes it impossible to discuss the issue. We are not talking about child abuse. We aren't talking about a situation in which a child has reported abuse. We aren't suggesting allowing pedophiles to hang out with kids.

We are talking about human beings here. Who happen to be sick. Who haven't done anything wrong.

Being a child molestor doesn't even make someone a pedophile. Raping a kid doesn't even make someone a pedophile. Raping a man doesn't make a male rapist gay. Raping an old lady doesn't make someone whatever the term is for a person who is attracted to old people. Rape is almost never about sexual attraction and gratification. Rape is about power and control. Rapists dont typically pick their victims based on who they think is hottest. They pick their victims based on who they can get away with raping. I have no idea why being a pedophile would make someone any more likely to rape a kid than being a heterosexual would make you likely to rape a man if you couldn't get any to have sex with you. Peoples sexual desires are not the deciding factor in whether or not they're a rapist. If this logic doesn't apply in any other situation why would it apply here? It makes no sense.

How are they sick then? Lol. So they're attracted to kids. So fucking what? Let it be their dark little secret that never sees the light of day. I don't see the problem here. I have plenty of fantasies I won't reveal to most anyone in life. Likewise, do any of you feel the need to, for example, start talking about preferred sex positions during a business meeting? No, it's crazy and inappropriate. Now to make it into an analogy, let the world be your workplace. What changed? Nothing changed.


This is extremely similar to arguing we should sympathize with people who have constant murderous thoughts as long as they don't kill anyone, or claim to anyway. It's unthinkable that anyone would do this.

We are talking about, ultimately, a desire to hurt human beings, be it children by traumatizing them by having sex with them or one to rape, or to murder, and so on. Fantasies are fine, IMO. Roleplay them with your adult partner if you wish. Imagine them. But if you ever catch yourself considering acting them out in real life, as in actually planning to, then you are a moral monster, simple as that. And, in that scenario, since you understand what you're preparing to do, you are in control of your mental faculties.