My husband was religious when we first started dating--then again, so was I. He was pretty uneasy about things like sex, and cursing. I remember we used to tease him by getting him to say dirty words that he didn't know were dirty like menage a trois. (I wasn't as religious as him). For a while he even thought it was a sin to LIVE TOGETHER. Like in the same house. But we did move in together, and I got him to loosen up a lot. He's an intelligent guy, but he was raised to believe that way.
Eventually both of us started having our doubts. Mine were much stronger than his--so I became an Atheist first. When I told him, he was pretty okay with it. I think that was the first step for him toward Atheism. When I became an atheist--because he knows me so intimately and knows that I'm a good person, he was able to accept that Atheism doesn't make you a bad person. He never tried to pressure me into believing in god again (we never went to church in the first place anyway). His views on god evolved, and he eventually believed... well in humanism with God attached. That's the best way to describe it. "God just wants you to treat people right."
Now he's an atheist just like me. One day he told me "I had been praying to God to ask him to show me a sign--any kind of sign. Then I realized--I've just been talking to myself." And we're much happier for it.
Eventually both of us started having our doubts. Mine were much stronger than his--so I became an Atheist first. When I told him, he was pretty okay with it. I think that was the first step for him toward Atheism. When I became an atheist--because he knows me so intimately and knows that I'm a good person, he was able to accept that Atheism doesn't make you a bad person. He never tried to pressure me into believing in god again (we never went to church in the first place anyway). His views on god evolved, and he eventually believed... well in humanism with God attached. That's the best way to describe it. "God just wants you to treat people right."
Now he's an atheist just like me. One day he told me "I had been praying to God to ask him to show me a sign--any kind of sign. Then I realized--I've just been talking to myself." And we're much happier for it.
The whole tone of Church teaching in regard to woman is, to the last degree, contemptuous and degrading. - Elizabeth Cady Stanton
