I agree, funerals are for the living. Having said that, my mother and I have always had a mildly challenging relationship. Obviously part of this is me being an only child. But there are other issues revolving around my disability and her family life. But we've both tried over the years.
One thing we have always differed greatly in is our choice of music. Case in point, she is a big Bruce fan. I am, to put it mildly, not. However, there is a cover of Bruce that I love, by the band Low, who I like. I figure that might be a meaningful thing for my family to play at my funeral.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWIorQ_Fgxk
But, it's their choice.
One thing we have always differed greatly in is our choice of music. Case in point, she is a big Bruce fan. I am, to put it mildly, not. However, there is a cover of Bruce that I love, by the band Low, who I like. I figure that might be a meaningful thing for my family to play at my funeral.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWIorQ_Fgxk
But, it's their choice.
"For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring." - Carl Sagan
