(December 29, 2016 at 1:57 pm)pool the great Wrote: Tibs, I'm not saying women have it perfect but at least they have something. Men are pretty much fucked in terms of resources they can have access to in case of abuse. Just look at domestic violence support websites, for women they say "If you are a victim of domestic violence of any kind contact us." and for men they say "If you are afraid of engaging in domestic violence please contact us. We care about your safety.", I'm paraphrasing but that's basically what they say.
According to one famous model by a feminist men are literally incapable of being victims of domestic violence. Imagine that. A man that got his face beat up goes looking for support and what he sees is "If you are afraid of engaging in domestic violence please contact us. We care about your safety."
Plus there's lots of different social stigma attached with male victims vs female victims. Whenever the public hears about female victims they immediately go into protective mode and wonder oh you poor thing but when it comes to male victims the gut reaction is either to laugh or to wonder what kind of loser he must be to not only be a victim of abuse but to actually whine about it.
Just look at for example a man getting kicked in the sack, people laugh their ass off at this. Male abuse is pretty much mainstream comedy.
(December 29, 2016 at 11:18 am)abaris Wrote: I guess a lot of male rape happens in prison and is completely off the radar of most people.
Yep, there's that too. The sad thing is most people doesn't even care.
Male rape doesn't only happen in prison, that would be absurd to claim that. Male on male rape just like male on female rape is not about sexual preference anymore than child molestation is. Sexual assault of an adult or a child is about opportunity and power and control.
The right to face the accuser should be. But what should not be, is what courts have done historically in slut shaming women. False accusations can be made. Even by parents of children. There was a daycare case in California where a doze employees were accused by an over zealous society and the kids were not interviewed at the time by a trained child psychologist, so the kids simply said what they thought the cops and court wanted to hear.
Having said all that, it still remains most of the time, the vast majority of the time when victim reports they are NOT lying.
But even with out rape in prison, America is fucking stupid the way we don't allow men to seek help and when they have nothing, or when they commit a non violent crime, we end up warehousing them with violent people, then when they get out, they become aggressive or even suffer PTSD.
But between men and women women get sexually assaulted at a far higher rate. When it comes to violence in the home, women get abused at a far higher rate.
