Been through it myself. Yes, it is a kick in the gut to have the one you love tell you they don't love you the same way anymore. I think what helped me, was all the prior relationships before my marriage. I went into it not with a "forever" utopia attitude, but "lets enjoy it day by day."
Truth is that even with friends, things change over time. It does not have to be bitter, or a battle. I still PM my X on FB and I am happy for her, she's done really well for herself. I think far too many humans get sold the utopia that it has to last forever or else you've failed as a human being. No, it just means things change.
My X even during the process, was so worried about my mental health, she and her friends actually helped me move from the apartment we shared to the new one I lived in during our divorce process.
It hurts, but it is part of life.
Truth is that even with friends, things change over time. It does not have to be bitter, or a battle. I still PM my X on FB and I am happy for her, she's done really well for herself. I think far too many humans get sold the utopia that it has to last forever or else you've failed as a human being. No, it just means things change.
My X even during the process, was so worried about my mental health, she and her friends actually helped me move from the apartment we shared to the new one I lived in during our divorce process.
It hurts, but it is part of life.
