Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist

[Joods]

@everyone defending this dude, will you have the same attitude if this happened to your daughter?

"If" is a big word and there are no guarantees in this world. The only thing I can hope is that I have taught my daughter to be clear about what she does or doesn't want and to not ignore any bad vibes or red flags she gets. She'll be an adult so she will have to make adult decisions. My kid seems pretty mature and pretty focused on her future. Of course, I can't predict the future or what will happen to her in her life, but I can say that I am proud of the job that I have done so far. 

For the record, pool, I don't think anyone here wishes any bad thing to happen to someone else. But this "thing" that happened between this comedian and this woman, wasn't anything more than sex gone wrong and someone changing their mind as a result. It ended there. 

I love how some (not any one person in particular here) have come to the conclusion that every single time some of us don't automatically side with a supposed victim, we are automatically branded as some sort of evil incarnate. It's important to have all the facts from all sides presented. One article written about this incident, from the woman's POV and everyone goes batshit crazy with assumptions.

As a SA victim (and some of you knew that), I can tell you that I am not unsympathetic to this woman. I just don't agree with her claim of sexual assault. That does not in any way, shape or form mean that I am "victim blaming". Why does "blame" have to be assigned at all? I don't like it when assumptions are made about victims blaming other victims. That's a horrid accusation to make and care should be taken with doing that. As for myself, I was merely stating the fact that she was free to go at any time. There is no blame to be had in this situation.

What I see is two grown adults, fully capable of verbalizing what they want and what they don't want. I see a woman who was not being held down against her will nor was she being forced to do things she didn't want to do. I see a man who was more interested in having sex than she was and was more intent on it than her, but she wasn't objecting and the entire time, she was free to stop the activity and leave. She had options that she chose not to exercise until the point  that it became uncomfortable for her and then she left on her own accord.