Substitutionary Atonement! WTF?

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Did someone say God can only show us love by causing/allowing horrible things to happen and then (partly) rectifying some of them? (Paraphrasing)

This sounds like some underachiever who is desperate for validation and so develops a hero complex. They go around planting bombs just so they can diffuse them. They plant so many that a lot of people get killed before they get round to diffusing them, but people won't be able to feel the relief from not being blown up (what this guy sees as love) unless they supply this danger.

It's weird, I can show my love just by being nice to someone. And I can do so even if nothing horrible ever happens to them.