Separating yourself is not abuse, that is fine and probably healthier than revenge, IMO. I’d be fine saying “You're actions were so bad that I feel tempted to harm you, but I won't, because that is wrong too.”
"There ought to be a term that would designate those who actually follow the teachings of Jesus, since the word 'Christian' has been largely divorced from those teachings, and so polluted by fundamentalists that it has come to connote their polar opposite: intolerance, vindictive hatred, and bigotry." -- Philip Stater, Huffington Post
always working on cleaning my windows- me regarding Johari
always working on cleaning my windows- me regarding Johari