RE: Should you ever get revenge through abuse?
March 21, 2019 at 9:06 pm
(This post was last modified: March 21, 2019 at 9:08 pm by fredd bear.)
"Should you cut off contact with someone you want to abuse?"
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I'm hoping you mean some one you want to belt over the left ear with a maggoty possum whenever you see them.
Cut off all contact? Absolutely ! Until such time as you are confident you can control the base desire. to inflict some kind of damage. EG It's getting on for 30 years since my divorce. I've almost reached the point where I don't think I would say withering things to my erstwhile spouse..
I have two people here on ignore because they push my buttons. I have another look every couple of weeks. So far no changes.
I'm embarrassed to admit, there are couple of fundies here who are just too easy, and I can't resit saying unkind things to them. They seem only to only open their mouths to change feet. My bad.
As Frankie Howerd used to say: "it's wicked to mock the afflicted"
On forgiving those who have wounded you: I do try, really. Not for any moral reason, simply because to forgive another is a psychologically healthy.
When you hate, you're the real victim; they don't feel your feelings, and may in fact not think about you at all.
So ,I try to forgive. If i can't forgive, I try to become indifferent, because I think indifference is the greatest possible insult to another person. In not caring if they live or die is to deny their humanity.
A couple of years ago, I learned of the death of a loathed school teacher . I was pleased to discover that I simply didn't care. Same thing with a guy I worked with who was a complete prick. He died a few months ago. my reaction was: "meh"
I guess I sound callous. That's too bad; I am answerable only to my conscience which is alive and well, with far too much Catholic influence..
"Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man.”
― Aristotle, The Philosophy of Aristotle
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I'm hoping you mean some one you want to belt over the left ear with a maggoty possum whenever you see them.
Cut off all contact? Absolutely ! Until such time as you are confident you can control the base desire. to inflict some kind of damage. EG It's getting on for 30 years since my divorce. I've almost reached the point where I don't think I would say withering things to my erstwhile spouse..
I have two people here on ignore because they push my buttons. I have another look every couple of weeks. So far no changes.
I'm embarrassed to admit, there are couple of fundies here who are just too easy, and I can't resit saying unkind things to them. They seem only to only open their mouths to change feet. My bad.
As Frankie Howerd used to say: "it's wicked to mock the afflicted"
On forgiving those who have wounded you: I do try, really. Not for any moral reason, simply because to forgive another is a psychologically healthy.
When you hate, you're the real victim; they don't feel your feelings, and may in fact not think about you at all.
So ,I try to forgive. If i can't forgive, I try to become indifferent, because I think indifference is the greatest possible insult to another person. In not caring if they live or die is to deny their humanity.
A couple of years ago, I learned of the death of a loathed school teacher . I was pleased to discover that I simply didn't care. Same thing with a guy I worked with who was a complete prick. He died a few months ago. my reaction was: "meh"
I guess I sound callous. That's too bad; I am answerable only to my conscience which is alive and well, with far too much Catholic influence..
"Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man.”
― Aristotle, The Philosophy of Aristotle
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