(May 30, 2009 at 10:59 pm)EvidenceVsFaith Wrote: I think that perhaps:
If taking offense is so acceptable. Then taking offense to others taking offense should be too. If it's okay to be sensitive - then it should also be okay for an otherwise INsensitive person to be sensitive to the 'over' sensitivity of a sensitive person.
Thoughts?
EvF
I think you may be assuming too much as a principle.
IF taking offence is an emotional reaction,it is beyond the control of the individual, and not something which requires the approval of others.
The way a person behaves as the result of taking offence may or may not be acceptable. Whereas it may acceptable say " I find that REALLY offensive" It's not acceptable to abuse or injure the offender. [in our society]
I am not especially sensitive,but do not intentionally offend others most of the time. However,nor do I walk on egg shells, or refrain from expressing a sincere thought or opinion for fear of giving offence. In my opinion,"oversensitivity" is often a form of passive aggressive behaviour,the purpose of which is to manipulate others. --THAT'S the principle.
IN PRACTICE,situations vary and tact is sometimes a good idea: I would (and have) watched what I said and did in a Muslim country.Those buggers don't fuck about;you can find yourself locked up or deaded.---In less extreme cases,it's often wise not to offend one's boss at work,and to be exceedingly tactful in courting a new girlfriend.
As far as possible I am the arbitor of my own behaviour,rather than my perception of the expectations of others. I'm usually quite capable of bearing the hurt feelings and outrage of others with great fortitude---and a hasty exit when needed...I will also apologise if I feel I'm in error.
