(December 23, 2022 at 9:36 pm)Uberpod Wrote: I understand the feelings of frustration that a lack of success can bring, but I do not get the feelings of resentment and anger -- they are pathological. Entitlement about what others are suppose to do for you is toxic.
It depends on how one defines "success". If one's goal is marriage with children, then marrying someone who is beautiful, yet infertile, may not be viewed as being "successful". Or, marrying someone who turns out to be adulterous. Or, someone who turns out to be a poor mother or father.
To the OP (and others), I would say that you should establish your goals in love and work, and with respect to the former, there's nothing wrong with mediocrity. As a parent of five children, I would rather that all of my children marry a homely spouse who is lovng and faithful than someone beautiful who turns out to be lying and unfaithful. In my opinion, how relationships end is much more important than how they begin, and, so, when lusting do your best to look at the other qualities in the individual.
