Sexual desire seems to be a curse for men

[Thumpalumpacus]

Taking rejection personally is to be expected. Take a personal inventory.  Be brief, don't tarry. Plan some growth and change if needed, but move on fast. I agree that overpersonalizing things must be avoided. Many things have external causes outside one's control. And, if needy and pathetic were attractive we'd all get laid on our worst days.

Right, I wasn't saying don't be introspective about the why. That's why even after my awkward high-school rejections I didn't go incel; I set about fixing my issues as best I could and can, and stopped wanting to blame others.

You got my gist, though, that taking offense at it, and looking outward rather than inward for the reasons, is harmful.

Recovering alcoholic here -- taking inventory is always a good thing in my opinion. Just don't dwell on the opinions of others once you've analyzed your own behavior. I think that's the crucial failing of incels: they point the finger at others rather than take stock of themselves at all. Rather than change what things they can, they rail against people whom they cannot change.