I still feel a bit bad for not being kinder about telling her I didn't want to reconcile. I also do bear some responsibility for not speaking up earlier.
The problem was it never occurred to me that I had a right to 'speak up'. Her criticisms of me all made sense in isolation. She didn't want to see my speed chess games; fair enough. Blunders are probably stressful to look at. I know it's not that rare to feel stress when watching others play chess because they relate to the frustration of making a blunder. She also found it a bit much when I talked about my writing; also fair enough. My zombie series is dark. At the time I was writing a fairly grim scene where someone impaled himself on a rusty fence and tore his inferior vena cava. No one wants to hear about that after a long stressful day.
On the other hand...I think us trying to reconcile is like trying to mix oil and water. She's religious. I'm a proud atheist and nihilist. She's prim and proper and I'm a potty mouth. Why drive us both nuts straining to compromise?
The problem was it never occurred to me that I had a right to 'speak up'. Her criticisms of me all made sense in isolation. She didn't want to see my speed chess games; fair enough. Blunders are probably stressful to look at. I know it's not that rare to feel stress when watching others play chess because they relate to the frustration of making a blunder. She also found it a bit much when I talked about my writing; also fair enough. My zombie series is dark. At the time I was writing a fairly grim scene where someone impaled himself on a rusty fence and tore his inferior vena cava. No one wants to hear about that after a long stressful day.
On the other hand...I think us trying to reconcile is like trying to mix oil and water. She's religious. I'm a proud atheist and nihilist. She's prim and proper and I'm a potty mouth. Why drive us both nuts straining to compromise?
