coming out

[ohh EPiC FAiL]

It depends more on them than you. No matter what you say they will only hear what they wish to hear.

P.S. - if you haven't been to some damned church in 7 years they already know something is up.

well they know that i don't agree with some of the things they teach there, and i've been honest about the fact that i was looked down on by the "elders" and many parents would try to keep their kids away from me and that's why i stopped going, and my parents are so into the whole thing that they are probably naive enough to think that i would never question god or the bible. it's one thing to not attend church, it's a whole other thing to deny god(in their eyes)

Do not 'come out' until you are living independently. Do not.

I have no problem giving you my experience in this thread, but it will take a few words to explain. I'll leave it to you. I can do it here, or in a PM. I have no issues being public about it, just respecting the unspoken 'brevity' code.

brevity is up to you, i don't mind long winded responses and my wife and i are moving into our house this coming week, so i figured i'd start really thinking about how i want to do it. i've been talking to my wife about it since i started thinking about it and one of the first things i decided was that i'd definitely wait til we were out of their house.

My coming out was rather spontaneous.

One afternoon when my mother and I were screaming at each other, she told me to go to hell, and so I shot back, "No, you go to hell, I don't believe in any of that God crap."


Smoooooooth....


I was already the black sheep of the family, so it didn't really matter, but probably not one of my finer moments. I presume you understand that this is not a recommendation of this approach...

haha yeah, i understand how that is. i'm surprised i never did it in the heat of the moment when we didn't get along. my parents and i get along really well now, unlike when i was younger and started wanting to "do my own thing" rather than being a cookie cutter "normal" looking person. i think that's why this decision has been so hard for me to decide to do it because it took a looooooong time for us to get to the point we're at and i know this will be a set-back.

Please don't do it until you're living on your own. There's too much at stake to gamble you're housing away.

yup, and i really don't want to come off as disrespectful to them since it's their house. when we eat dinner(at home or in public) with them they make us pray, and i just bow my head and play along. they're already starting to try to teach my 19 month old son their ways, and it really bothers my wife and i. it gets rather annoying coming in the room hearing my mom sing "jesus loves me" almost every day. i had really planned on never coming out to them just to spare the hardship, but once i realized they were already starting to teach my son stuff i realized it would eventually come out when they will ask why we're not taking him to church and indoctrinating him.