Ask a transsexual anything

[TaraJo]

Meh, if a family doesn't accept a member inside for being itself, what is it worth?

It would be nice if he thought like that, but he doesn't. And who am I to tell him to stop loving his family?

Before you thought you were a chick, did you date women? Have sex with them? Enjoy it? How about men?

Transphobia. Fun. *eyeroll*

Anyway, I used to try to date men, but it always felt 'off.' I simply couldn't date men as a men. I had no problem dating women, although I think at least a couple of the girls I dated picked up that there was something 'queer' about me.

Since transitioning, though, things have changed. I can date either men or women and feel perfectly comfortable with it. Before I was with my boyfriend, I was in a relationship with a woman for a little over a year.

The question was really for TJ, who said something about making that determination at age 29.

Yes, I'll be the first to admit, I waited a lot longer than I would have liked. What can I say? I had no frame of reference. How could I say "I want to be a woman" when I didn't even really know what it was like to be a woman? How could I say "I feel like I'm a woman" when I didn't know what a woman feels like? I had daydreams about being a girl, sure, but I managed to convince myself that lots of men have those day dreams but they just don't tell anyone. I only transitioned when I was on the verge of suicide and now the idea of ending my life is about the most foreign thing I can think of.