Ask a transsexual anything

[TaraJo]

For sports, I know the olympics will allow trans women to compete now. In fact, they went through that issue almost ten years ago.

http://sports.espn.go.com/oly/news/story?id=1803423

Past that, it varies depending on the ruling of the individual sports group. I know the NCAA has had some issues there, recently, but I haven't paid enough attention to find out how things went. Anyway, since I'm not planning on participating in any sporting events (except maybe a Super Bowl party tomorrow), it's kinda a non-issue for me.

For restrooms, like I said, I only use the women's room. I guess I could get into trouble, but it hasn't happened yet. Truth be told, I think it would cause more of a disturbance if I used the men's room at this point. I kinda have the advantage here, too: the great majority of people who are familiar enough with trans people to read me are going to be friendly enough to be ok with my using the women's room. Haters almost never seem to have good t-dar.

Other stuff that gets to me, I still have to shave my face. I really despise dragging a sharp piece of metal accross my face on a daily basis. I can't get pregnant and that's one that hurts me quite a bit sometimes, so I try not to think about it to much.

As for interpersonal relationships, they've gotten decidedly better since transitioning, mostly because any relationship I had before always seemed to be tainted with a touch of fear because I was that unstable. The friendships I have now feel more genuine, more real, more sincere. I feel like I can care about people now, but I couldn't before. I haven't had any abusers, though, in any of my relationships, simply because I'm way too outspoken to let someone get away with crap like that.