I just want to share this with you, and see what reactions come out of it. My grandmother is crazy. She's been trying to kill herself since before I was born (1989). She is an alcoholic and addicted to prescription drugs. She says I would be better off if my mother was dead, and also if I was dead. She once spent literally all her money on a red sports car that she couldn't even fit in (she's gained a lot of weight over the years because of the drugs). What do you do with someone like that?
My mother insists on talking to my grandmother (her mother) on the phone, and having Thanksgivings and Christmases with my grandmother, even though she knows my grandmother is toxic and giving her any attention only makes her worse. The best thing my mother could do for herself and for her family is cut off ties completely, but she won't do that because my grandmother is family, and part of her thinks my grandmother is still the person she was while my mom was growing up, this magnetic, creative, beautiful woman that everybody wanted to be close to. Is she right not to shun my grandmother?
I avoid my grandmother as much as possible. I take her money when she offers it to me and ignore the strings she tries to attach to it (she uses money to try to control people and buy their love). I say I love her, though I'm not sure if I do, since she has been trying to use and control me to get her way my entire life, and she doesn't seem to love me enough to even be bothered to stop trying to kill herself. When I have children, if she is still alive, I plan for her to not know where we live and not be in my children's lives. Am I too harsh?
My mother insists on talking to my grandmother (her mother) on the phone, and having Thanksgivings and Christmases with my grandmother, even though she knows my grandmother is toxic and giving her any attention only makes her worse. The best thing my mother could do for herself and for her family is cut off ties completely, but she won't do that because my grandmother is family, and part of her thinks my grandmother is still the person she was while my mom was growing up, this magnetic, creative, beautiful woman that everybody wanted to be close to. Is she right not to shun my grandmother?
I avoid my grandmother as much as possible. I take her money when she offers it to me and ignore the strings she tries to attach to it (she uses money to try to control people and buy their love). I say I love her, though I'm not sure if I do, since she has been trying to use and control me to get her way my entire life, and she doesn't seem to love me enough to even be bothered to stop trying to kill herself. When I have children, if she is still alive, I plan for her to not know where we live and not be in my children's lives. Am I too harsh?
