RE: God Loves Me, Too
April 4, 2013 at 1:25 pm
(This post was last modified: April 4, 2013 at 1:42 pm by John V.)
(April 4, 2013 at 1:17 pm)Kayenneh Wrote: That is true, but sometimes despite good communication persons can have different sex drives, and no amount of discussion is gonna solve that.Sure it will. Such discussion will lead to a reasonable compromise if both people are acting in love. I have a greater sex drive than my wife. She lets me paw at her sometimes when she doesn't really want it.
Also note that sex drives are not constant through life, so even if people go into a marriage knowing that they are compatible in drive, there's no guarantee that will always be the case. It probably won't be the case.
(April 4, 2013 at 1:19 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: Festive is right. Money and sex are ridiculously important. Not because people wanted more money, but because they would feel that 1) someone wasn't pulling their weight...2) They were getting badgered about not pulling their weight... 3) The economic fall the US took made a lot of people incredibly frightened financially, which bled into fights in the home... 4) One partner was trying to live by principles the other partner didn't agree with (such as starting a new business rather than working for a well-paying corporation they didn't like).Studies show that happiness is strongly correlated with happiness up to a household income of $75,000 or so. After that, not so much.
Quote:John, I unhid your response and I'll answer you:LOL. Why?
Quote:You are only partially correct. Communication is key if both partners like the same type of sex in making sure that everyone is happy. But what happens when you're in a relationship like mine where I have darker urges than my boyfriend? If he were any less awesome in all other areas beyond sex (and I promise you, the vanilla sex is pretty bang-smack fuckin' awesome as it is), it's quite possible I'd leave to try and find someone who shared my tendencies towards BDSM.I'd say a person is out of balance if certain types of sex are so important to them that they'd leave an otherwise good partner to pursue those types of sex.
Quote:Communication, as well as other factors, continues to resolve this difference between us...but it's a hefty difference.Again, I see this as a personal imbalance, not a relationship problem.
